My women's small group is going through Proverbs together, and last night, we studied the famous passage: Proverbs 31:10-31. We've all heard about the Proverbs 31 woman. She is the one every Christian man seeks after, she is the one that every Christian woman seeks to be. Is she a mere fantasy? Does she even exit?
Proverbs 31 women are not anxious about the future (25). They manage the household well (27). They are wise and intelligent (26). They are hardworking and efficient (18). They are compassionate and generous (20). They honor their husbands through their words and deeds (12, 23). They are skillful and use their gifts to provide for the family (15, 16, 19, 21). She is mentally and physically strong (17). Do you know a woman who has all these traits? Sisters, the point of this passage is not to chase these goals through our own means. Because we can't. Verse 30 sums up what this passage is all about: "Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised." This passage is simply about women that "fear the Lord". This "fearing" isn't being afraid or frightened. It is being in awe of who God is and what He is able to do as our Creator, Father, and Savior. It is having this awe that draws us near to Him and makes us want to live the way He wants us to—the source of our motivation to seek all the traits above.
"Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised."
- PROVERBS 31:30
Yes this woman exists, and yes we should all strive to be her, because the passage isn't describing a perfect woman who lacks nothing, but a woman who is obsessed with worshiping God with her life. And we should all seek to be that. We all have the ability as Christians, to fear the Lord and offer our lives as a living sacrifice. We are not called to have it all together and have the world admire us. We just need to focus on pleasing God with the resources given to us, and the rest will follow. (Romans 8:28 / Matthew 6:33)
I tend to be a worrier. I take my own peace away. Recently, God revealed to me that I am so anxious and greedy about the future that I have been totally blinded to the overflowing amount of blessings I have RIGHT NOW. The point of life is not having great and mighty expectations (other than spending our eternity with God) for our gain (Psalm 131:1), but constantly being grateful for where God takes us and what God gives us. My life is not about me. Your life is not about you. And as we live with that reminder, I pray we will be that Proverbs 31 woman who has God as her top priority and is simply consumed by the desire to please Him.
"O Lord, my heart is not lifted up; my eyes are not raised too high; I do not occupy myself with things too great and too marvelous for me." Psalm 131:1
"And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good,[a] for those who are called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28
"But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you." Matthew 6:33
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